Tag: parenting

  • It’s back to school time, so let’s teleport together

    It’s back to school time, so let’s teleport together

    The school year’s about to start. Today is a Sunday before many schools begin session.. others happen next week…

    The change is here.
    You can feel it.

    Even if you’re not the one carrying a book bag and lunch box anymore, there’s something about this time of year that still gets into your bones. The air changes. That first crisp edge eventually replaces the heavy summer heat. Evenings come a little sooner. Somewhere in the distance, there’s the faint glow of Friday night lights.

    It’s like the world is quietly telling you it is again time to turn the page.

    Starting school was always a rite of passage. New shoes, fresh notebooks, the awkward excitement of seeing who ended up in your classes. Adults now join in by posting their kids’ schedules and seeing who what other kids share the same homeroom as theirs.. and the photos on the first day blanket the socials…

    Fall itself is wrapped itself around it all—cool mornings, leaves crunching under shoes, the smell of sharpened pencils and pumpkin spice everywhere.. memories come back so easily you can almost hear the hum of the fluorescent lights in the hallway of your own school..

    Nostalgia..
    It’s warm. It’s familiar. But like I’ve said before—it’s a little like pulling a blanket out of the dryer only to realize it’s still damp. Comforting for only a moment and then the warmth vanishes and you are left with something very different than how it started..

    Our minds edit the past into highlight reels, cutting out the awkward moments, the bad grades, the stress. We remember the best parts and forget that life was never as flawless as the memory makes it seem.

    Sometimes, we try to go back—not physically, but mentally. Mental “teleporting.” Close your eyes. Block out the present. Let yourself drift to a hallway you once walked, a mall you once wandered, a crisp fall night under the stadium lights. Picture every detail—the way the air smelled, the sound of shoes on the floor, the weight of the backpack on your shoulder. If you let yourself sink into it, your brain can almost convince you you’re there again.

    I guess it can be healing for a bit..
    But here’s the danger—stay there too long, and the present starts to fade. You risk getting so wrapped up in what was that you stop paying attention to what is. Nostalgia can be a bridge, but it can also be a trap and a curse into oblivion..

    So use it wisely.
    Take the trip in your mind when you need to remember who you are, or to feel the spark of a time when things seemed simpler. But then—open your eyes. Look around. Notice the smell of this fall’s air, the sound of these streets, the people who are part of this chapter.

    Because here’s the truth—one day, right now will be the moment you’re trying to teleport back to.
    And when that day comes, you’ll wish you’d really been here for it.

  • The creepy last night of summer: Blame the winter of 1994 for the early start

    The creepy last night of summer: Blame the winter of 1994 for the early start

    Depending on your school district, this is it..

    For us here in Northeastern PA, we are ready. School clothes purchased. Ayden is “eagerly” “anticipating”.. It all begins..

    Buses are being primed and shined for another year. Educators are lamenting the speed at which these summer months vanish. Parents are erratically pondering where school shopping should occur.. Kids, oh the kids.. they are suffering the most.

    Watching those last minutes of the calendar tick away.. While on TikTok.

    x x x

    This is it, folks!

    The final week of summer in most areas. School seemingly is beginning earlier than normal every year right?

    There are old timers who often talk about their school days dazes.. when they went back AFTER Labor Day weekend!!

    Now we have a bias on the Northeastern part of the United States. It may very well be different where you are.

    We researched this and we found a number of previous news articles from decades past when school really did start after Labor Day.. It wasn’t until the late 90s that things changed–and it appears that the winter of 1994 can be blamed for all of it!

    Back in that time frame, there were a LOT of school closings. The blizzard of 93 was one thing, but the winter of 1994 was cold. Snowy..Really really cold. Really really snowy with storm after storm after storm.

    I recall it fondly, as Mr. Shappell in 7th grade Immaculate Heart became angered more and more each time another snow storm was predicted.. (winters after became largely warm for the final half of the 90s after the blizzard of 1996) ..

    But that winter of 94 really messed with school planning.

    An August 30th 1995 editorial in the Pottsville Republican seemed to suggest that the school calendars were completely torn to shreds by the previous winter. As a matter of fact, the fishwrapper reported that the summer of 1995 was hot (I remember this kindly sorta not really fondly.. grass was so dry it crunched like chips) .. The editorial penned, or at that time, typed:

    “The pre-Labor Day start of classes is as result of the Winter of 1994, when a seemingly endless series of snow and ice storms wrecked school calendars and forces sessions to continue into late June.”

    And so it was written.

    Harrisburg also had one of its snowiest winters of all time..

    Once schools went pre-Labor Day one time, it seemed like it continued, earlier and earlier each year.

    IT WASN’T ALWAYS LIKE THIS

    At one time in history, children did NOT have the summers off. Read that again. Yes. No summer vacation… no traveling. No Hershey Park. NO beach. No Mount Rushmore.

    The public education system started in the 1800s..

    Based on the location you lived in, calendars varied. In cities, schools were open all year–240 days!

    In rural America, farming and the land forced schools to open for 5 months, or two sessions, in the winter and the summer.. In the fall, school closed so kids could help harvest.. Spring time they helped plant.

    It was not until the early 20th century that urban and rural districts combined their efforts and created the 180-day school year. It started AFTER labor day and ended in June.

    It continued that way for decades. By the 1990s, pre-Labor Day schooling began.. It has increased the ability to build in longer vacations for Christmas and Easter, but depending on snow days those days off start getting chipped away at during colder times.

    I STILL BLAME THE WINTER OF 1994 FOR ALL OF IT

    It seriously is when it all changed.

    So let me take you back. . . I was in grade school.. and yes, like all dorky kids like me, watching winter patterns and watching Weather World on PBS at the time. Oh those fond memories of my strange childhood.

    I was also loving Rooftop Weather on WYOU with Barry Finn while all the other adults were glued to Tom Clark.

    Barry Finn was extraordinary that year, he was rare. He loved winter. He loved the snow. Other forecasters pooh-poohed it while Barry just shivered on the rooftop up at the Scranton studios giving Northeast PA their daily dose of scary blizzard forecast in 1994.

    As a matter of fact, Barry Finn warned people in September of 1994–back when kids still started school after the Ashland ABA parade.

    The TIMES LEADER wrote this on September 3, 1994:

    Coat the East Coast in nasty ice storms.
        “Oh, you don’t want to know,” said psychic Peg Verity Barber of
    Wilkes-Barre. “It’s going to be a devastating winter, not snow as much as ice.
    It’s because of global changes, and the tilting of the earth’s axis.”
       
    Wallop the region with snow.
       
    “Meteorologically speaking, there’s no way to know,” said Barry Finn, chief
    meteorologist at WYOU-TV in Scranton. “But I’m going out very soon to buy a
    snow blower.”

    Vince Said it Would Be Like This Sweeney also got an honorable mention with this quote:

    Weatherman Vince Sweeney of WBRE-TV dismisses the hoopla. “I’ll tell you
    about this winter: it’s coming,” he said. “If you don’t like the weather,
    move.”

    So that is it..

    A winter in memory to blame for what we have now? Sure some will surmise it has to do tiwh tourism, jobs.. whatever.

    It has to do with weather. Weather changes us culturally and economically. And in 1994, it changed when children’s melodrama of nightmares would begin.

    May God bless the students about to journey into a new school year.

    And may God forever bless the soul of our dearly departed Barry Finn, who passed away in 2020..

  • Signs of bad parenting displayed in comic form

    Signs of bad parenting displayed in comic form

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    Signs of bad parenting via curejoy

    What people dislike about their children’s actions is what they dislike about their own parenting skills. And don’t even know enough to know it.

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  • Sudden strange shifts in reality

    Sudden strange shifts in reality

    Ever have one?
    That kind of reality shift that really causes your head to spin.. almost get dizzy..

    While I often talk about the Mandela Effect this time I am not. Instead I am exploring those real moments–on this timeline–where you see something for what it is.. So evident in front of you that your brain has no ability to process what you are living through.. no ability to conjure up a meaning to the reality you’re existent in, but instead your whole being is just pointed in an immediate right direction. Or at least a direction you never expected to travel to..

    Let me explain without going into personal gory details.

    The other night I was involved with a small gathering of friends. One friend turned fiend when he decided to blatantly opine about my life. Advice is on thing. Chalk it up. But criticism and almost condemnation in quite another. It took me a bit to even process what was occurring while it was happening. Things got fuzzy.. suddenly nothing seemed balanced, nothing seemed real.

    At the same moment–almost exact–my son was injured while playing. He hit his head and we ended up a few hours later in the ER .. a slight concussion was diagnosed and life went on. He is fine now, of course we are vigilant for further signs of problematic symptoms.. In the mean time he is eating, smiling, and the kookiness of his initial brain bump has subsided.

    But I did a deep amount of soul searching on this… very deep.

    A few days prior, while watching one of those self help videos on YouTube from Ralph Smart (Infinite Waters diving deep once again) I came across an older video where he explained that nothing is coincidental. Nothing should just be ignored. Instead, it flows together like a beautiful mighty river of life. Like Billy Joel’s the River of Dreams..

    Nothing is coincidence. Nothing just happens for no reason.

    So my parental opening and Ayden’s head bump seemingly occurring at the same time cannot be ignored. Instead, both incidents were horrible. My head was spinning from outright condemnation. His head was spinning from injury.. Simultaneously occurring as the hands of time spun into infinity.. Something seemingly shifted immediately.

    Like the scene in THE SHINING when the ghost bartender tells Jack Torrance how to deal with Danny. Something shifted..

    I am prone to conspiracy analysis.. Not necessarily theory. But the study of the theory is so often what fascinates me!

    …but I don’t think coincidence meaning something else deeper is conspiracy theory. Instead I believe it to be a long-running stream of consciousness …

    Yes indeed. A reality shift occurred.
    Real faces were shown.
    Real people. Real things. As real as Judge Judy herself.

    Perhaps it’s all this diving deep I so often do. Maybe, finally, my pineal gland is opening wide and I am seeing the REAL world for what it is. And it sure ain’t pretty…….

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  • The wrasling days are back again. At least in my house.

    The wrasling days are back again. At least in my house.

    Ratings may be down. But in my house? ….rising again

    It finally arrived! The special moment when my son and I could attend a professional wrestling match together.
    The venue: Wilkes Barre.. The moment: Magical!

    My soon to be 7-year-old became an immediate fan. He knew little of the matches or wrestlers prior.. but during and after became completely immersed in all that is professional wrestling.

    Wrestling is one of those things that I avoided over the past several years. When I was younger it was a must watch. During my teenage years when Stone Cold was stunning Vince McMahon weekly, I had and attended RAW parties every Monday night. Always fun times.

    But as you age, as you grow.. (some would say as you mature) you neglect those old battles. You look back with a nostalgic tear at the memories and fun times. Such as when I saw Ric Flair live… or when my father used to take me to the local cable company to pick up the little box to hook on the TV for the quarterly pay per view events–everything now is different.

    The thing that is not different however is professional wrestling: It is almost reassuring that you can figure out who will win, who will lose.. it is amazing to watch a TV production live, to see how truly staged everything is.. The number of times stagehands en masse change the mat and draping around the ring during the televised RAW program.

    My son went wild for Roman Reigns. Really wished he could have seen the Undertaker wrestle.. but was in awe when the Big Show took part in a really quick tag team match.

    Professional wrestling is taking a massive ratings hit right now. I can see why.. The soap opera drama is too much, and not fun. Besides the Miz, there isn’t much humor like years gone by. There is no big star right now.

    This, however, is so often what happens with wrestling. The Hulk Hogan years led to the Stone Cold years, which led to the Rock years.. Vince McMahons needs that larger than life star to drum up ratings again..

    And it is cyclical.
    I stopped watching.
    My son will start.. and most likely me again as well, at least enough to support his newfound love of the entertainment…

    I have said before and will always argue this: Horror movies and professional wrestling exemplify pop culture of the day. The types of horror people see, and the types of stars people choose in wrestling, tell a whole bunch about pop culture of the time. The moral 80s with Hulk Hogan taking vitamins and Jason Vorhees killing sexy drug addicts… the 90s with Stone Cold stunning the system and GhostFace mocking horror. The 2000s? ….chaos! turmoil! Wrestling run amuck.. SAW films killing without mercy. The newer generation of both? Horror back to the roots again. Wrestling has to do the same.
    If it does my son and I will be tuning in every Monday night with popcorn in hand. And attending the next live event..

  • KIDS LOVE FIVE NIGHTS AT FREDDY’S

    KIDS LOVE FIVE NIGHTS AT FREDDY’S

    Does anyone play FIVE NIGHTS AT FREDDY’S Sister Location?

    My son’s sixth birthday was held this weekend..a fun time had by all, but I was amazed to hear and see the number of kids his age who are seemingly addicted to these games, whether having the action figures or just talking about the games they downloaded, even acting out certain portions..

    Don’t get me wrong.. I am attempting to NOT become prudish. I watched horror from an early age and turned out (mostly) fine… but I was just stunned by how many young children under the age of 10, these kids being 4-6, knew so much about the game where dead children inhabit animatronics and try to kill a security guard at a pizza restaurant famous for mass murder. 

    So this brought up the question in my mind, what age is too young for FF@F?  What does anyone else in this modern age do with such a question: Google it.

    I found countless religious-themed websites decisively saying that this game, the 1st through 5th and then the Sister Location addition, are devilish.. will cause nightmares .. are immoral. Are hard to handle for a child. These are the same types of people who would have condemned my mom for allowing me to watch certain horror films as a child… 

    But I will give the theory some credit. Some children cannot handle horror games. Some children SHOULD not handle horror games.. 

    I think one reason so many young kids play FIVE NIGHTS is due to the FGTEEV family on YouTube playing it.. that channel is an innocent and kind family gaming station.. 

    The kids at my son’s party presumably don’t know the murderous story behind the FIVE NIGHTS series.. That’s too heavy for them to know. The jump scares are just enough…

    The next fad on its way to become a part of pop culture for kids under ten (and beyond): HELLO NEIGHBOR.

    Horror for kids. 
    Safe? Sound..? 
    Over the top?

  • Never underestimate the intelligence of a child

    Never underestimate the intelligence of a child

    My son paused from games and playing this weekend to note something to me.. In his innocent five year old voice, he conjectured that ‘there are a lot of bad people on the planet.’

    It was a remarkable statement from someone still new to this big hot pale blue mess.

    On Friday night he overheard a bit of evening local news describing a small town criminal who killed an infant. I knew he heard it but when I noticed him watching he turned away.

    My Tv was glued–a bit–to tragic news of Christina Grimmie being killed and then over 100 being shot at the Pulse night club. It clearly was notice for my son, who had a puzzled looked of sadness on his face when he realized just how many bad guys there were on the planet.

    I told him that he was right.. That there were bad people. But I reassured him that there were more good than bad.

    Then I secretly pondered how I’d reassure myself of that very sentiment..

  • A BEAUTIFUL OCTOBER WEEKEND IN TIME, 2015

    A BEAUTIFUL OCTOBER WEEKEND IN TIME, 2015

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    May your day be filled with pumpkins and joy.

    Sunshine and warmth..

    It’s the season of the witch. Life can be a bitch.
    So sit back and enjoy the show.
    October is the best month of the year. Single handedly the best month of the year.
    So get out.

    And enjoy the show.


    My family and I enjoyed a few shows this weekend, a covered bridge festival at the greatest park in the world, Knoebels, and a fall foliage festival in one of the best towns in the world, Jim Thorpe..

    Enjoyed it. My wife and son did as well.
    It was a great moment in time, coupled with sunny skies and fire-colored leaves.

    I wish moments like these could last forever.. stay forever.. never go and never whither..

    But whither they will. As will the leaves.
    Cold winds will blow.

    Until they do, I am going to enjoy each and every moment I can.

  • A memory at the beach 

    A memory at the beach 

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    The summer is waning. The final days are quickly approaching. .This past weekend, in a last impromptu decision, my wife and son, along with our niece, went to Long Beach Island for two days and one night.. we rummaged through the online database of phone numbers to find the right place at the right price—still pricey. The beach was abuzz with life. A few specialty shops already closed for the…

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  • Famous last words and midlife turns 

    Famous last words and midlife turns 

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    On a yearly basis I post the song linked with this published HORROR REPORT today, September 2, 2015. My birthday.. I don’t remind readers of this for selfish reasons. As a matter of fact, I purposely ‘hide’ this information on my personal Facebook page simply because I don’t want to navigate the ‘Happy birthday” or “hope you have a…

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